Tips For Caregiver's

People with Alzheimer's disease frequently become more disoriented after dark or when waking. Leaving a night-light on in the bedroom may be helpful.


Friday, November 30, 2007

Visiting Walter

I took Muddear to visit Walter last night at St. Elizabeth Hospital. It was very difficult for her to see him lying in the hospital bed, extremely ill, and unable to speak.

On several occasions Muddear managed to wheel her chair next to the bed, stand up, and kiss Walter. It was heartbreaking. Throughout the visit she would try to wake him up, because she kept forgetting that he was sedated and not allowed to wake. This was most difficult for me...Muddear seemed to forget what the hospital staff explained about Walter's current condition. About every 10 minutes or so, she would ask... "Now tell me, what's his condition?" The follow up question would always be, "Do you think he is going to pull out of this?" Then she would tell them how God was going to bless them for taking care of her baby. This line of questioning continued for about 3 hours and Muddear became increasingly sad after each answer.

About midway through our visit, Muddear decided she wanted to leave Walter a letter. Muddear dictated while I took notes. Then made sure the nurse placed the letter in Walter's chart when we left. Muddear wanted to make sure that when he awoke, he knew that she had been there.

I am glad I took Muddear to see dad. Life is so uncertain, but I continue to believe God for the best.


Glorious Hats said...

She is an amazing woman, no wonder you love her so much, and show so much strength yourself. Here is todays hug for you both. Hugs, Jane

Nikki said...

Thanks Jane,

Isn't it amazing how the internet brings people together? Your continued support is appreciated.

Glorious Hats said...

Oh good, will keep posting. I do feel a kinship toward you. Here is why. About 10 years ago, our 92 year old Grandma went to live with a cousin and was in B's home for about 5-6 years. During that time, I would drive or fly the 1000 miles a couple of times a year to stay with Grandma while B went on vacation. What B did was really special. I considered myself fortunate to have some alone quality time with Grandma during those years. There were times when things went very smoothly and times when the road got very bumpy. We all know life is like that, but still the bumpy times can be challenging to navigate. Your ability to share your experiences and Muddear's story is a wonderful thing. I hope to be here with support and hugs for a very long time. Hugs, Jane