Tips For Caregiver's

People with Alzheimer's disease frequently become more disoriented after dark or when waking. Leaving a night-light on in the bedroom may be helpful.

~WebMd

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Breaking the News

Sunday, after Muddear's return from the respite stay at Brookwood Retirement Community, I told her that Walter passed.

I quietly sat beside Muddear's bed, lowered my voice, and delivered the news while holding her hand. I truly expected histrionics. However, Muddear's response left me shocked and awed because her reaction was the exact opposite of what I had been expecting. No tears, no signs of significant distress or great mental anguish. I honestly was expecting Muddear to completely fall apart. If it were my child, possibly even my husband, I would have screamed and yelled until I was catatonic! Most likely, I would develop Dementia or Alzheimer's - lose my mind, forget who I was, and begin making random calls to 911. (I guess I am just a drama queen.)

Yet there sat my grandmother, full of strength and grace, who simply stated, "I always told Walter to take care of himself. If he would have listened to me, we would not be in this place. It hurts, but he should have listened to me."

One day I hope to attain the type of strength that Muddear exhibited. She is truly a special lady.

2 comments:

Glorious Hats said...

Prepare for the worst, expect the best. Gosh, one just never knows. It seems the visits to the hospital while he was sick, though perhaps not obviously remembered, still made an impact and perhaps helped in preparing her for this day. Or, she just has always known Walter was at risk and knew this day would come for her. However it played out in her head and heart, Muddear is indeed an amazing woman. As is her grand-daughter. Hugs, Jane

Anonymous said...

Brookwood is a Hell ! They should be closed down.